How’s Your Relationship?

happy couple at the bar with champagne and fruit cake, love conceptYour relationship with food that is? Do you hate it? Do you love it? Or maybe you hate it because you love it so much. People are in such a hurry now a days that they just eat when they think they're hungry or when they're sad, disappointed, lonely, bored, hurt etc. Most people who are reading this blog are NOT in a healthy relationship with food. One function of food is to fuel your body and help it work at its optimal/maximum performance level. But another function of food is to nourish you - not just your body but your soul too.

As with any relationship, you have to make an effort to cultivate your relationship with food. But it shouldn't be an effort that you dread making. Food is beautiful and nourishes you in every way.

This is not a judgment about any type of food. It's a realization that many of us have to develop before we can truly begin to understand what is behind our difficulties with weight. As with humans, when you have a love-hate relationship with food, it's a back and forth situation and what it's doing to your emotional well-being is not necessary. There is great stress created with that type of relationship.

Talk to your food, thank it and be grateful that it's in your life. Bring back the tradition of saying "grace" - I say my "gratitudes" when I sit down with my food. I love it when I make it and you can tell the taste is different than when I just throw things together. Let me tell you a story about how the way food is made can definitely affect your body. I went to the rodeo last year (a big event here in San Antonio). And since I went early, I wanted to find something to eat. I came upon a place that was serving fajita type meals (I was looking for a salad but couldn't find one). I was a bit worried because I have to be very careful about what I eat due to digestive issues and normally what I was going to eat would have wrecked havoc with my gut. But as I stood in line watching the women make up my plate, I saw how much fun they were having and saw the love they were putting into making just a simple plate of food. As I sat down to eat it, I savored not only the food but the love that was emanating from it. Rodeo is a festive time of the year and people who come to it are happy. I watched people walk by, holding their kids' hands and laughing, having a great time. The food tasted terrific and you know what? It NEVER bothered me at all.

This is one reason buying organic food and especially from a Farmer's Market is good for you. You know that the food is raised with care, concern and often with love.  It's the relationship the farmer has with their crops that makes the difference.  This food tastes better and provides more nourishment and nutrients for you.

Take some time to examine your relationship with food. How do you look at it? Is how you feel about food dependent on your mood? Is it dependent on the number on that darned scale? What does it depend on? Does it vary from day to day or even time to time during the day? Does it vary with your mood or with how your clothes fit?

Journal about this. It's an important factor in your body image and body weight. Your relationship also governs how successful you'll be with lasting weight loss.


Facebook Gratitude Page

powerful-gratitude-header-2 I'm so pleased to tell you about the new Facebook Page I started called the Power of Gratitude

You all know how important I feel that Gratitude is. It takes your mind off your problems and increases your vibrations so that you are emanating much more positive energy than before. This will then activate the Law of Attraction in your life and bring more abundance and well-being into your life.

Post on that page everything you appreciate and are grateful for. Pick at least 1 (and preferably 3) things a day. Can you keep up the challenge every day for the month of November. But then the big challenge is to continue posting and recording your "gratitudes" even past Thanksgiving (in the US).

If you don't have it yet, pick up your PC Gratitude Journal (not sure it works on Windows 8 though) and use that on your desktop to record your gratitudes there for as long as you want.

It will give you more energy, more excitement and even more anticipation. When you share your Gratitude and Appreciation with others (on the Facebook page)




Wednesday Wisdom – What is Beautiful?

tumblr_mqu62cQwGt1qitvdso1_400I couldn't resist posting this today. As you know I'm training for this really long run in July in Tennessee and I'm in one of those "discouraged" sections of the training. When you couple that with the fatigue, it doesn't make for a pretty picture.

But when I got up this morning I had an email from one of the people who has been most supportive to me on this endeavor. So I had to write about this. Although this person is also "beautiful" on the outside, the most important beauty is internal. Just a supportive email, a text, a phone call - think about what you can do to help others feel good today.

I should save this for a Momentum Monday but I just had to remind everyone that the beauty is deep within.

I also remind you that what you do for others may never be shown to you. But it's important. To say a word, just to acknowledge them - call them by their name - you never know when that will make a significant difference in how they feel. You hear stories all the time about how such a small action will prevent someone from carrying out a suicidal plan they had.

I read once about someone who waved at everyone and when asked why, he said that he  had once met someone who told him that had he not spoken to him, he would have killed himself. So now, he waved to everyone "just in case".

Who has touched you today and more importantly, who can you touch? Let us know in the comment box.


Live in The Moment, Not For the Main Event

The main event has never been the manifestation; the main event has always been the way you feel moment by moment, because that's what life is.


Excerpted from the workshop: Syracuse, NY on October 17, 1996

This says it all. It's what people really mean when they tell you to live life in the moment! In the past 7 months I have learned how important that is. You cannot be "waiting" until you get to this point in life or achieve this or that, or have a new car, new relationship etc. You have to live right now and aim to be joyful and experience all that happens to you as it happens.

Try to do this for a day at first. If you make it to breakfast and then forget, that's a step in the right direction. Keep on track every time you remember what you've vowed to do. Get yourself back to living in the now. Look around you, write it down then or at the end of the day. There are so many phone apps that are diaries that would make it easy for you to record how well you are living in the now.  Read it back when things seem to be going not so good.